GAY COUPLES NOW FEELING THE PRESSURE TO GET MARRIED
October 28 2011
New York, NY – It has been a long, hard fight for many people in the United States and now some gay people have the right to get married. While most states still outlaw the practice, a few have legalized gay marriage which many see as a triumph of human rights and equality.
Unfortunately, for many gay people in the state, they are learning the hard way that the real troubles related to gay marriage only began with legalization. Now many are finding that the pressure to get married, either by their partners or friends and family, is quickly becoming the bigger issue with a few wishing that they still had that old excuse on the books.
“I want to get married but not right now. That has become an issue, a big issue for both of us and it’s really putting a strain on our relationship,” said one local gay woman who preferred to remain anonymous. “I love my partner but now is not the time. I have so much going on at work and I feel like I’m too young to get married. It’s just not the right time.”
That sentiment is apparently being felt all over the state. When gay marriage was first legalized earlier this year there was a rush on certificates, but those applications have dropped to almost zero in recent months.
“I think that a lot of people had been waiting a long time and they rushed to do it as soon as they could. We had a huge number of certificates issued in the first two months or so, but almost nothing since. It’s been a kind of dead zone,” said a city employee. “I assumed that we just ran out of gay people, or at least gay people that were looking to get married but I don’t know what the real problem is.”
Divorces amongst gay coupled has been on the uptick as well, believed to be a result of many people rushing to the altar.
The state did not release official numbers on the amount of gay marriages that have been performed since the process became legal.
“Marriage is tough thing. It’s tough to commit to and tough to get through. Heterosexual couples have known this for years and now gay couples are figuring that out the hard way,” said Scrape TV Family Values analyst Marge Hendricks. “It’s going to be a long learning curve and I expect that no matter how many states legalize gay marriage we are going to be seeing the same kind of pattern repeat itself.”
Six states and the District of Columbia all recognize gay marriage and have seen similar patterns.
“Getting married to anyone is a big commitment and it isn’t something that can be entered into lightly. I would imagine that now that it is actually there are a good number of couples that simply can’t hold things together with one half wanting to get married and the other not wanting it. The law simply isn’t a good excuse any longer,” continued Hendricks. “People have to step up or step out now and that is going to be a tough thing for many people to deal with. It’s got to be a tough transition and I bet that more than a few people are wishing they never got their way.”
Lauren Hebert, Health Correspondent